Lesson 2: Girls need purpose, guys need motivation. So let me say first off that this is not a universal preincipal, nor was it the norm this weekend. It's just something I had to come to terms with.
Going about the tasks that we had lined up for this weekend - everything from serving hot dogs to painting - I realized that while it may have looked like the girls worked harder than the guys, that wasn't the case. The girls simply needed a purpose: We're here to serve - do whatever you can to serve. The guys needed more specific motivation: We're painting this room because there's a lack of classroom space and the more they have, the more kids they can teach. So imagine a cool classroom and make it so.
Not that I implemented this over the weekend. In fact I must say that I got rather frustrated at times with the guys and I'm learning this now in the quiet relaxation of my office. Men are task-oriented. If the task is meaningless, it's a waste of time. Thus, I need motivation for each task. It's not wrong, it's nature. Women can be motivated more by emotions. Get a good "Aaawwwwwwe!" out of a group of girls and they'l be good to go for a few days, no matter what the task.
So, sorry guys for not understanding, and please, someone learn from this and save yourself the I'm-ready-to-scrape-your-face-on-the-pavement frustration.
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